The internet has brought many changes to world and like any other advance in human technology there is a shadow and light because we carry the shadow and the light within us. Technology seems to have magnified each aspect as it has no allegiance.  With sexuality a most potent part of the human experience there is the potential for either exaltation or debasement. The only other energy we deal with that has similar consequences is money and there is a strong relationship between the two. But, we will focus solely on sexuality and the exaggerated shadow potential exploited by the internet.

The internet, on par with the wheel as one of the greatest of human inventions, possibly. The internet has led to pornography being much easier to access and both the medium and content play off each other. I recently read a piece in a local newspaper, it was in the advice column, a young woman of 14 was asking for dating advice. The boy she was interested in confessed to her that he had an internet porn addiction.  A 14 year old, young impressionable developing boy, saturating his consciousness with unreal images of hyper sexuality, folks, I am concerned by this.

 The delicate nature of human sexuality requires us to be as impeccable as possible with our behavior, so we avoid spreading undue pain, suffering and trauma. Our sexuality has such a deep influence on our lives and once we take responsibility for it and recognize its power and influence we can begin to  handle this energy with greater love and awareness. But if we continue to repress it be scared of it and generally shove into the shadows of our life, it will come out in deformed and disfigured ways that are only half of its potential. This is what I see with pornography; it is a half expression, it is the gross physical devoid of the sensitive emotional side. It expresses power and aggression along with a sexualization of this type of behavior.

Flower Essences

There are many aspects to this picture that flower essences touch on and in the rest of this post you will learn about which essences apply to issues related to ‘clandestine’ sexual behavior and compulsion.

Basil: This is a core remedy for addressing the split of sexuality from any modicum of soul warmth.  It is a specifically indicated for porn addiction.

Baby Blue Eyes: For the sense of loss of innocence related to exposure to graphic images which distort the understanding of how human relate.

Chapparal:This remedy is a psychic cleanser, it is useful to clean debris and residue that accumulates in the psyche when it has been exposed to violent and degrading images.

Mariposa Lily: This remedy fosters a deep connection with the maternal, it is helpful for those who have wounding related to poor mothering.  It helps us connect with the divine feminine and those qualities of nurture that come from a strong mother/child bond. Useful when that repair damage from this lack of core bonding.

The Monkeyflower Family: This group of essences deals with fears, a variety of fears related to emotions and our emotional life.

 Pink: This essence treats fear of being exposed, due to feelings of shame, guilt or unworthiness. Those needing this remedy are often afraid to be seen both literally and metaphorically. Pink Monkeyflower helps one feel at ease emotionally and encourages emotional openness and honesty. It also helps one have the courage to take emotional risks with others. 

Scarlet: This essence is for those who are afraid of deep emotions and intense feelings. Often these intense feelings or emotions get repressed out of fear. Scarlet Monkey Flower helps one to get in touch with strong emotions, it promotes emotional honesty and integration of deep emotions, especially of the emotional ‘shadow’.  It also gives people the courage to express intense feeling and emotions. Useful for sexual repression. 

Sticky: This essence balances the integration of human warmth and sexual intimacy; it helps one to express deep feelings of love and connectedness, especially in sexual relationships. Helpful when there is a fear of intimacy, repressed sexual feelings and an inability to experience warmth in sexual experiences.

Hibiscus: Warmth and responsiveness in sexuality; integration of soul warmth and bodily passion.  Helps when there is an inability to enjoy sexual experiences; lack of warmth due to abuse or exploitation.

Holly: Holly is an excellent remedy to treat anger, jealousy and envy. It is helpful if something in your personality prevents you from experiencing happiness. This can be very corrosive when left unchecked. Holly is also helpful for treating bitterness and suspicion, which corrupts the ability to love. This essence engenders compassion in the heart and soul, enhancing the ability to love inclusively. This is a tremendously powerful remedy that helps you feel and channel love through your heart and extend it to others. Dr. Bach felt Holly was one of the most important and widely applicable remedies.

Pine: Useful when guilt is the driving force behind sexual behavior. As a society we are not taught how to handle our sexual energy in a healthy way, it often comes with a large amount of guilt and creates a cycle. Where we indulge then feel guilty, Pine will help stop this viscous cycle of self incrimination and help you to accept yourself and your behaviors.

Snapdragon: This essence is for mis-placed libido energy, when the libido is strong and is repressed energy builds up. This pent up energy has a tendency to be expressed as anger, aggression and frustration. It is often misdirected and leads to harm.